Okay, I’m going to come out and say it. It’s the dirty truth you’ve all been thinking but didn’t want to mention for fear of rocking the boat. Mother’s Day has very little to do with celebrating you. Especially with young kids, Mother’s Day isn’t much different than any other Sunday. You’ll still scramble to get kids ready for church, you’ll argue with them about food. Your husband will try to help more but, let’s be honest, he’s kind of out of his league. There will be a few presents and maybe you’ll go out to eat but most of the work will still fall squarely on your shoulders.
Even though it isn’t “as advertised” pre-kids, I still sort of love Mother’s Day just as it is. I love the underdone pancakes and runny eggs my kids “helped” make for breakfast. And nothing really beats the preschool Mother’s Day card that always seems to involve a handprint transforming into a flower.
The bummer is that I end the day just as exhausted as I am every other day, and potentially more. So, how can we reclaim the supposed “break” that’s due on this day? Easy, claim another day (or at least a couple hours) to really reward us – the “in the trenches” moms – for the hard work we put in everyday! We wipe bottoms, we clean up puke, we handle delicate hostage negotiations when one kid steals the other kid’s lovey. Let’s let Mother’s Day be what it is – delightfully imperfect – but claim Moms’ Brunch for us!
Moms’ Brunch is a chance to get together – just mom’s, no kids – and celebrate Mother’s Day the way it’s presented in the department store adds. It doesn’t have to take a lot of work to make a truly special time for your mom friends. I recommend the Saturday of Mother’s Day weekend (that way, your husband can take the kids out shopping if he hasn’t already). Gather your mom friends and have a backyard feast.
Keep it Simple
Something about eating alfresco makes people want to linger so, if you’ve got the space, plan to host your friends in your own backyard. If you’re feel particularly overwhelmed, don’t feel bad coordinating brunch a local eatery though.
When hosting at home, a little can go a long way for sprucing the place up. Dust off that patio table and throw a pretty table cloth over it. Find some cute paper plates if you don’t feel like doing the dishes. If your flowers are in spring bloom, cut a few to put in the center of the table.
Unfortunately, the home approach means someone is going to have to cook but I think it will pay off with a yummier meal in the end. Plan on pulling together an easy breakfast casserole. A bowl of scrambled eggs and some bacon (which can be easily done in the oven) will take care of any gluten intolerant guests without a lot of work. Round the whole thing out with fruit and something sweet and you’re set! For my event, I am preparing to handle all the food, but will gladly hand off a dish or two to anyone who wants to help. Of course, mimosas are a must along with a lot of coffee with all the fixin’s!
Adding in some extras
To make the party really special, consider adding in a couple extra elements to pump up the fun and pampering.
Chances are, you or someone you know owns one of those ridged plastic kiddy pools. Bust that sucker out, fill it with warm water and toss in some Epsom salts or essential oils. Then, let your friends gather around and soak their tootsies. If you’d like, you can provide basic pedicure supplies like emery boards, nail polish remover, cotton balls and q-tips as well as an assortment of nail colors. I also recommend giving your guests a heads up on this activity so they can bring any of their own preferred tools or colors.
Gifts Mama Really Wants
Ask each guest to bring a gift between $5-$10 for a little gift exchange. Encourage useful gifts or consumables so the gift isn’t just contributing to clutter. Some ideas include high end candy, a baked good, nail polish, flowers or a cute notepad. Something a mom would really like!
Words of Encouragement
Pass around pretty stationary and let each mom write a note to a mom who needs a boost. Encourage them to remember a time when they felt alone, overwhelmed and in despair. Have them write a note to a mom in that place – full of encouragement, scripture (if they can think of any) and general commissary. Then swap the notes around ensuring no mom gets the note she wrote. Let the guests take these home and tuck them away for a day when they’re feeling down in the dumps.
What about the guys?
If the husbands are at a loss regarding what to do with all these kids, encourage them to meet up at a local playground! Men connect best when doing something so chasing kids around with his buddies will be perfect to help your husband fill his social cup as well.
Let’s do this
Okay friend, what are you waiting for? Fire up that Facebook event or evite or text chain or whatever your preferred method of social organizing and get cracking! Think of moms to invite who really could use the boost, especially moms who are new to the area or are a bit isolated. Pepper in a few of your favorite go-to ladies who are easy to talk to and lots of fun. Now you’ve got yourself a mom’s brunch!
Please let me know how it goes in the comments below! I’m so excited to hear about how your encouraged the moms in your life while meeting your own needs as well. Remember, as a mom and as a woman, God is doing a good work in you and through you.