What is the purpose of home? In this day in age, we are more focused on creating a structure that impresses than we are on making a true home. A true home nurtures anyone who enters – starting with the core family. A home should serve their needs and be comfortable to them. A hospitable home goes a step farther, it takes your private oasis and opens it up to those you want to share it with. It takes into account what makes guests comfortable without sacrificing the “real living” that happens there everyday. Guests don’t feel comfortable in a showplace. They want a special spot where they can curl up with a cup of coffee and be their real selves – no pretense required.
This past summer a blog article started making the rounds on social media called “In Praise of Scruffy Hospitality”. If you haven’t had a chance to read it, I highly recommend it. The author makes some fantastic points about the true reasons for hospitality and defines scruffy hospitality as “not waiting for everything in your house to be in order before you host and serve friends in your home. Scruffy hospitality means you hunger more for good conversation and serving a simple meal of what you have, not what you don’t have. Scruffy hospitality means you’re more interested in quality conversation than the impression your home or lawn makes. If we only share meals with friends when we’re excellent, we aren’t truly sharing life together.”
I love this idea! You shouldn’t wait for your home to be Pinterest perfect before you have someone over. Your plates don’t have to match. It’s okay if its crowded. The kitchen doesn’t have to be totally tidied up and look like you’ve never cooked in it. Hospitality has nothing to do with having a magazine worthy home, food or tablescape. It’s about reconnecting with people and sharing life together.
Scruffy yet welcoming!
Scruffy hospitality isn’t an excuse not to think of your guests. The homes this author described, though mismatched and a little cluttered, still beckoned you in and welcomed you to stay for a while. Is this your home? Or do you struggle to find a balance between the toll your everyday life takes on your home and your dream company-ready home. The key is to stop focusing on how your home could be perfect but instead focus on a few areas that really matter to a guest. A guest doesn’t care if your sheets match your curtains in your bedroom or if you have granite counter tops. They want a warm, clean, comfortable space to reconnect with you, your family, and, frankly themselves. So take these following posts a week at a time. You’ll see not only your home transform but your heart and your attitude.
READ THE WHOLE SERIES:
(Links will become live as each blog is posted)
Introduction | Creating a Hospitable Home
Your walk, porch and front door | Beckoning in your guests
Your entryway | Helping guests feel at home
Your bathroom | Creating a comfortable “intimate” space
Your pantry | Making impromptu entertaining a breeze